Draf Relationship (i'm still working on my intro)

INTRO:



If people understand the value of personal space a better and happier
relationship will appear.

First, it is important that our partners have a sense of when to step on a side and let the other person “breath”. For example, it’s very important to understand that sometimes we need
time to be alone. Any relationship that exists under control and pressure will eventually fall apart. When we say things that we need some time for ourselves, the other person gets upset.Ego is a very strong part of our character and often dictate wrong behavior. I am a free spirit and always need my space. From my personal experience I will say that most of my boyfriends were very pushy and controlling. Maybe that’s insecurity. For some people to hear that the other
person need time to be alone is a very hurtful thing. It is rare when people can take that news with normal reaction. Often it leads us to sad feelings, jealousy and questions “ Why? What did I do wrong?” There is nothing wrong with them it is just me loving doing my own thing. If someone try to take away my personal time , I will lose my feelings for that person. Often our partners trying to make us feel guilty and press our buttons . They manipulate situation that if we not going to see each other more, we will grow apart. After all , some of us become scared to lose relationship with that person and we become easily influenced. As a result, we will feel uncomfortable and unhappy.

Even though , I’m saying that people need space, I will highlight the fact that it depends on what stage of relationship you are with your partner. If you just met someone and fell in love , it is very common that you don’t want to let go of each other . Every minute feels like heaven. It is important to dedicate time to your loved ones. It is all about time matter. For example, if my love story just began, I would feel suspicious if my partner would need space from me on the early stage. Most likely those guys are cheaters. But as time goes by and you look at your your
relationship with clear eyes, it come to your realisation that there things to achieve besides hanging out with your partner. And it is a good thing if you let go of each other a little bit. So this way it could bring you closer and desire each other more. For example, when I told my boyfriend that it’s okay for him to do his own thing (even though, my ego was hurt of a little thought that he don’t need me as much.) All of the sudden he wanted to spent more time with me. It is a human nature often to do things in reverse . When we push too much we won’t get anything, but if we let go and try to understand the other person feelings we will eventually get something good out of it.

And at last, we don’t need to be with people together all the time in order to be close to them. For example, I know couple that married for almost 9 years and they sleep in the separate bedrooms. For some people it sounds like unacceptable thing. But the truth is , that if they sleep together the wife will not going to get good sleep and will wake up tired and cranky. You have to sacrifice certain things in order to build a happier relationship. It was hurtful for the husband at first , but he came to the conclusion that it is better to see his wife in the morning making
breakfast rested and in a great mood. I know for fact that they love each other and their sexual life is normal. It is just the way they manage their relationship. Balance and understanding is very important aspect of any relationship.

In conclusion, I will say that often we have to do things that we don’t want to do in the relationships. It seems very hurtful sometimes to let go of other person or to understand that they need time to do their own accomplishments. Everything has to be in moderation.Sometimes person needs too much space and don’t dedicate any time to relationship, that’s not an option either. Some people lie their ways out that they need space and the truth is that they got too comfortable in the relationship. In other words, they can do what ever they want and just
in case they will keep you by their side sometimes. I think relationship is even exchange, it has to be fair. I think people always have to try the other person shoes. If guys need time with their boys, don’t forget to dedicate some time for us girls too. Leave space for romance too. Very important .Then a level of happiness in relationship will increase.