I am a big believer in positive thinking! Definitely better then think negative. I'm not one of those crazy people who thinks that just thinking positive without taking actions will get them to their dreams. You obviously have to put effort in any beginning. If we have positive thoughts in our brain that will stimulate us to achieve goals better then if we would have negative thoughts. For example, if we think positive towards education about getting degree and future opportunities it is more likely we would do home work, attend classes and get better grades. If we will think negative it is more likely we lose interest in getting a degree. Our set of mind is very strong.Thoughts are very powerful source of stimulating and motivating it's owner. People who don't believe in power of positive thinking either cynics or pessimists. Some of them trying to call it realism. May be.
After I watch movie "Secret" about power of positive thinking I decided to try what method of "visualize-materialize" I created vision boards with posters on the wall in my room of what I want to get. I cut out from magazines something about education ,traveling, and my personal goals. Believe it or not I traveled that year to 4 different countries, I got into a school I quit smocking and achieved many other things. Vision boards stimulates you to get your goals quicker. The good thing is also to set up a time limit for your wishes. For example: " I will get into school in the next three months!" All those methods worked perfectly and I would recommend it to anybody. My girlfriend wanted to get a green card, but thought that it's impossible then I told her to set up a note on her wall with her wish and think about it constantly. After all she won a green card lottery. What is it a consequences or miracle? I have no idea ,but I do believe in actions and positive thinking!
Thursday, December 9, 2010
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
Health and Drugs final paper
Depression is a major disease that effect a lot of people's lives. It is very hard to judge either people should take a pill or not. I think it depends a lot on your self core. Some people are just to sensitive or they think they are sensitive and can't handle their mood swings. The strength of our characters depends on where and how we've been raised. After hunger World Wars, and communism that my people have gone through nothing seem to be depressing anymore. In Russia we don't really have antidepressants. People aren't as depressed as in the USA, even though life in States is much better. I have a sense that TV, doctors, pharmaceutical companies have a big influence on Americans and trying to squeeze money from people by making them zombies. I try to feel sympathetic to people who aren't happy and depressed, but if we don't control our mind the mind will control us. So I'm going to be more on conservative side and go against antidepressants, unless it is extremely complex case. This paper will be about fighting depression with natural ways,,side effects of antidepressants, and people who can't be influenced so much by doctors, TV advertisement about antidepressants.
My first point is that people often look for an easier way to get out of depression which is to take pills instead of trying to find something that will work with their mind naturally. For example, article by Greg Crister tells the story about men Dominico Stromei born 1810 who was very depressed. He was poor and sick , one day he found his muse poems. " In his poems the poet comes directly in contact with that reality and he develops a philosophical mode , stoic in essence , which helps him deal with it and bear it." Back then, no one could take a pill. And now doesn't modern capitalism say we have to?" (37) That's a great story on how we can control our mind naturally and lower signs of depression. It seems to me that in America consumers and pharmaceutical companies brain wash you so much that people are taking a wrong decision towards their health. Person could take vacation instead, meet with friends, or do something fun to draw attention from sadness. Moreover, can't trust do doctors 100 % people have to make their own decisions. Sometimes doctors give people pills when they don't really need it and instead of suggesting to get over sadnees through natural ways humans take pill and become addicted emotionally.
The scariest thing are the side effects that antidepressants might cause and misleading claims presented by pharmaceutical companies. According to FDA there are "numerous false and/or misleading claims, suggesting that Paxil is safer than Prozac (it is not), that it coast less,and it is easier on the elderly (a claim is simply false)." (38) Furthermore, "DDMAC caught Pfizer Inc. for downplayed the risk of toxicity." (39) Those statements are scary and prove another point that people shouldn't agree to take pills so easy! According to article " Oh, how happy we will be " by Greg Crister side effects could be: " sexual dysfunction- Prozac, 0.1 % chance of seizure-Wellbutrin, stomachache-Paxil, increase of appetite - Paxil with Pondimin, possibility of priasm-Zoloft with Desyrel etc." (37) In my opinion I don't know what's worse having a depression which you can try and fight with natural ways, or having horrible side effects and suffer?
Bottom line people can't be influenced by TV and advertisement about antidepressants that much, nor trust doctors who are not always have the best intentions towards patients. Simply brain wash and giving people bad ideas. For example, when I'm in a bad mood I turn on TV and hear: " Do you feel tired and sad? Depression hurts. Call now!" Right away I have thought s in my my mind : " They right I have all signs of depression!" It feels like pharmaceutical industry want to convince people that they are depressed when they just having a bad day. In Russia we don't have one advertisement about depression, so people don't think it. According to a recent paper in the New England Journal of Medicine: " There are so called seeding trials, where thousands of company sales reps fan out to recruit doctors they know prescribe certain drugs, and then pay them for each patient they enroll in a "study" to try a new drug." (39)
Those facts makes me shiver and give another thought that we can't trust some of the doctors.
In conclusion, I would say that most of the people who are on antidepressants today are capable of fighting it on their own. Should doctors reject a pill to a patient in need with extreme signs of depression? Of course not. But may be it's time to ration the numbers of given medications. Most of the cases unnecessary. My favorite quote from article "Oh how happy we will be" by Greg Crister is: "But that way of handling melancholy,for better of for worse, is not what premillennial America is all about . It's not what I'm about; I am someone who takes pill for my sorrows.I wonder,though,if my depression is "unbearable" without medication only because I know that this medication exists. I also wonder if the drugs are preventing me from finding the solace Dominico did. Who am I without medication? Will I ever know?" (40) Something to think about.
My first point is that people often look for an easier way to get out of depression which is to take pills instead of trying to find something that will work with their mind naturally. For example, article by Greg Crister tells the story about men Dominico Stromei born 1810 who was very depressed. He was poor and sick , one day he found his muse poems. " In his poems the poet comes directly in contact with that reality and he develops a philosophical mode , stoic in essence , which helps him deal with it and bear it." Back then, no one could take a pill. And now doesn't modern capitalism say we have to?" (37) That's a great story on how we can control our mind naturally and lower signs of depression. It seems to me that in America consumers and pharmaceutical companies brain wash you so much that people are taking a wrong decision towards their health. Person could take vacation instead, meet with friends, or do something fun to draw attention from sadness. Moreover, can't trust do doctors 100 % people have to make their own decisions. Sometimes doctors give people pills when they don't really need it and instead of suggesting to get over sadnees through natural ways humans take pill and become addicted emotionally.
The scariest thing are the side effects that antidepressants might cause and misleading claims presented by pharmaceutical companies. According to FDA there are "numerous false and/or misleading claims, suggesting that Paxil is safer than Prozac (it is not), that it coast less,and it is easier on the elderly (a claim is simply false)." (38) Furthermore, "DDMAC caught Pfizer Inc. for downplayed the risk of toxicity." (39) Those statements are scary and prove another point that people shouldn't agree to take pills so easy! According to article " Oh, how happy we will be " by Greg Crister side effects could be: " sexual dysfunction- Prozac, 0.1 % chance of seizure-Wellbutrin, stomachache-Paxil, increase of appetite - Paxil with Pondimin, possibility of priasm-Zoloft with Desyrel etc." (37) In my opinion I don't know what's worse having a depression which you can try and fight with natural ways, or having horrible side effects and suffer?
Bottom line people can't be influenced by TV and advertisement about antidepressants that much, nor trust doctors who are not always have the best intentions towards patients. Simply brain wash and giving people bad ideas. For example, when I'm in a bad mood I turn on TV and hear: " Do you feel tired and sad? Depression hurts. Call now!" Right away I have thought s in my my mind : " They right I have all signs of depression!" It feels like pharmaceutical industry want to convince people that they are depressed when they just having a bad day. In Russia we don't have one advertisement about depression, so people don't think it. According to a recent paper in the New England Journal of Medicine: " There are so called seeding trials, where thousands of company sales reps fan out to recruit doctors they know prescribe certain drugs, and then pay them for each patient they enroll in a "study" to try a new drug." (39)
Those facts makes me shiver and give another thought that we can't trust some of the doctors.
In conclusion, I would say that most of the people who are on antidepressants today are capable of fighting it on their own. Should doctors reject a pill to a patient in need with extreme signs of depression? Of course not. But may be it's time to ration the numbers of given medications. Most of the cases unnecessary. My favorite quote from article "Oh how happy we will be" by Greg Crister is: "But that way of handling melancholy,for better of for worse, is not what premillennial America is all about . It's not what I'm about; I am someone who takes pill for my sorrows.I wonder,though,if my depression is "unbearable" without medication only because I know that this medication exists. I also wonder if the drugs are preventing me from finding the solace Dominico did. Who am I without medication? Will I ever know?" (40) Something to think about.
Friday, November 12, 2010
I'm greatful !
I've been blessed enough with a lot of things. Lately I really try to take a moment and thank God for what I have. For example, I'm healthy that's the most important thing in my life. If you healthy you can accomplish things better. I have a great mother who is my best friend, she supports me all the time. I moved to NY on my own and made it! Thank you Universe! I'm thankful for being in school, I'm thankful for my looks, I have a lot of friends and attention. I'm able to travel and see world. I have a lot of beautiful clothes, I love fashion and dress up! I'm thankful for being strong enough and quit smoking. I'm thankful for my talents.I'm thankful for living in Manhattan. I'm thankful for my "magic" powers...I rarely get "no". I'm happy for who I am! I love helping people and have fun that's why my friends love me so much and I love them back. My list could never end. I use to take things for granted sometimes,but last summer I got baptize, somehow it changed my views. Almost every night before I fall asleep I kiss my cross and thank God and Universe for all the goods I got!
Monday, November 8, 2010
Draf Relationship (i'm still working on my intro)
INTRO:
If people understand the value of personal space a better and happier
relationship will appear.
First, it is important that our partners have a sense of when to step on a side and let the other person “breath”. For example, it’s very important to understand that sometimes we need
time to be alone. Any relationship that exists under control and pressure will eventually fall apart. When we say things that we need some time for ourselves, the other person gets upset.Ego is a very strong part of our character and often dictate wrong behavior. I am a free spirit and always need my space. From my personal experience I will say that most of my boyfriends were very pushy and controlling. Maybe that’s insecurity. For some people to hear that the other
person need time to be alone is a very hurtful thing. It is rare when people can take that news with normal reaction. Often it leads us to sad feelings, jealousy and questions “ Why? What did I do wrong?” There is nothing wrong with them it is just me loving doing my own thing. If someone try to take away my personal time , I will lose my feelings for that person. Often our partners trying to make us feel guilty and press our buttons . They manipulate situation that if we not going to see each other more, we will grow apart. After all , some of us become scared to lose relationship with that person and we become easily influenced. As a result, we will feel uncomfortable and unhappy.
Even though , I’m saying that people need space, I will highlight the fact that it depends on what stage of relationship you are with your partner. If you just met someone and fell in love , it is very common that you don’t want to let go of each other . Every minute feels like heaven. It is important to dedicate time to your loved ones. It is all about time matter. For example, if my love story just began, I would feel suspicious if my partner would need space from me on the early stage. Most likely those guys are cheaters. But as time goes by and you look at your your
relationship with clear eyes, it come to your realisation that there things to achieve besides hanging out with your partner. And it is a good thing if you let go of each other a little bit. So this way it could bring you closer and desire each other more. For example, when I told my boyfriend that it’s okay for him to do his own thing (even though, my ego was hurt of a little thought that he don’t need me as much.) All of the sudden he wanted to spent more time with me. It is a human nature often to do things in reverse . When we push too much we won’t get anything, but if we let go and try to understand the other person feelings we will eventually get something good out of it.
And at last, we don’t need to be with people together all the time in order to be close to them. For example, I know couple that married for almost 9 years and they sleep in the separate bedrooms. For some people it sounds like unacceptable thing. But the truth is , that if they sleep together the wife will not going to get good sleep and will wake up tired and cranky. You have to sacrifice certain things in order to build a happier relationship. It was hurtful for the husband at first , but he came to the conclusion that it is better to see his wife in the morning making
breakfast rested and in a great mood. I know for fact that they love each other and their sexual life is normal. It is just the way they manage their relationship. Balance and understanding is very important aspect of any relationship.
In conclusion, I will say that often we have to do things that we don’t want to do in the relationships. It seems very hurtful sometimes to let go of other person or to understand that they need time to do their own accomplishments. Everything has to be in moderation.Sometimes person needs too much space and don’t dedicate any time to relationship, that’s not an option either. Some people lie their ways out that they need space and the truth is that they got too comfortable in the relationship. In other words, they can do what ever they want and just
in case they will keep you by their side sometimes. I think relationship is even exchange, it has to be fair. I think people always have to try the other person shoes. If guys need time with their boys, don’t forget to dedicate some time for us girls too. Leave space for romance too. Very important .Then a level of happiness in relationship will increase.
If people understand the value of personal space a better and happier
relationship will appear.
First, it is important that our partners have a sense of when to step on a side and let the other person “breath”. For example, it’s very important to understand that sometimes we need
time to be alone. Any relationship that exists under control and pressure will eventually fall apart. When we say things that we need some time for ourselves, the other person gets upset.Ego is a very strong part of our character and often dictate wrong behavior. I am a free spirit and always need my space. From my personal experience I will say that most of my boyfriends were very pushy and controlling. Maybe that’s insecurity. For some people to hear that the other
person need time to be alone is a very hurtful thing. It is rare when people can take that news with normal reaction. Often it leads us to sad feelings, jealousy and questions “ Why? What did I do wrong?” There is nothing wrong with them it is just me loving doing my own thing. If someone try to take away my personal time , I will lose my feelings for that person. Often our partners trying to make us feel guilty and press our buttons . They manipulate situation that if we not going to see each other more, we will grow apart. After all , some of us become scared to lose relationship with that person and we become easily influenced. As a result, we will feel uncomfortable and unhappy.
Even though , I’m saying that people need space, I will highlight the fact that it depends on what stage of relationship you are with your partner. If you just met someone and fell in love , it is very common that you don’t want to let go of each other . Every minute feels like heaven. It is important to dedicate time to your loved ones. It is all about time matter. For example, if my love story just began, I would feel suspicious if my partner would need space from me on the early stage. Most likely those guys are cheaters. But as time goes by and you look at your your
relationship with clear eyes, it come to your realisation that there things to achieve besides hanging out with your partner. And it is a good thing if you let go of each other a little bit. So this way it could bring you closer and desire each other more. For example, when I told my boyfriend that it’s okay for him to do his own thing (even though, my ego was hurt of a little thought that he don’t need me as much.) All of the sudden he wanted to spent more time with me. It is a human nature often to do things in reverse . When we push too much we won’t get anything, but if we let go and try to understand the other person feelings we will eventually get something good out of it.
And at last, we don’t need to be with people together all the time in order to be close to them. For example, I know couple that married for almost 9 years and they sleep in the separate bedrooms. For some people it sounds like unacceptable thing. But the truth is , that if they sleep together the wife will not going to get good sleep and will wake up tired and cranky. You have to sacrifice certain things in order to build a happier relationship. It was hurtful for the husband at first , but he came to the conclusion that it is better to see his wife in the morning making
breakfast rested and in a great mood. I know for fact that they love each other and their sexual life is normal. It is just the way they manage their relationship. Balance and understanding is very important aspect of any relationship.
In conclusion, I will say that often we have to do things that we don’t want to do in the relationships. It seems very hurtful sometimes to let go of other person or to understand that they need time to do their own accomplishments. Everything has to be in moderation.Sometimes person needs too much space and don’t dedicate any time to relationship, that’s not an option either. Some people lie their ways out that they need space and the truth is that they got too comfortable in the relationship. In other words, they can do what ever they want and just
in case they will keep you by their side sometimes. I think relationship is even exchange, it has to be fair. I think people always have to try the other person shoes. If guys need time with their boys, don’t forget to dedicate some time for us girls too. Leave space for romance too. Very important .Then a level of happiness in relationship will increase.
Sunday, October 17, 2010
Blog 3 Happiness at work place
Happiness at work place is a rare situation. As it says in the article there is only 50 % of Americans happy with the job they do. As for me, I'm absolutely not happy at work. Most of the time it makes me depressed, but knowing that I have to pay my bills and survive here on my own leave me no choice for now. I'm a bartender and my job use to make happy because the money was great and I met a lot of people there. I'm stock with that job for a while now and coming to a sad conclusion that I don't have any inner fulfillment.Some times I want to quit right on spot in the middle of the shift, but always stop my self because I'm acting while being in my hot state and will regret it tomorrow. Even though,it says in the article that we shouldn't set lower standards for ourselves when our own happiness-is at stake, but I do believe in a long term goals.So at the moment, I'm going to have to lose in order to win later.
That's why today I'm going to college to get my education and do what I love to do for living- photography. This way I predict that my level of happiness will increase and there will be no mistake in that prediction. I know that for sure.
That's why today I'm going to college to get my education and do what I love to do for living- photography. This way I predict that my level of happiness will increase and there will be no mistake in that prediction. I know that for sure.
Thursday, September 30, 2010
Pursuit of Happiness
- This video had a great impact on my way of thinking. I always knew that there were 2 types of happiness. I just didn't know how to put this in words. So, there are natural and synthetic happiness. In other words, you control your own happiness. You can make yourself miserable and spend all your energy on negative thoughts instead of investing your energy into something positive and create synthetic happiness , which as affective as natural happiness.You just have to find tools on how to do that. The story about how people can't make the decisions because they have a choice is definitely about me! I can drive myself crazy over and over about my decision and thoughts "what if?" Thanks to Dan Gilbert now I have a better understanding how to manage that!
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